Be
Patient!
Patience
is one of the rarest virtues to be found in human species these days. I just
ask people as to what is wrong in being patient? Well the only answer I get is
it takes too long, the wait is till eternity, who will wait that long etc. etc.
So where did our patience go? We still have to wait, but why can’t we do it
patiently anymore?
What
brings me here to write about this virtue today is a fact that I got to know
very recently- which is that 94% of the entire Universe is made up of dark
matter and scientists say that this dark matter, such as black holes and other
such things, they don’t know what it is and why is it there but what is a fact
is that the Universe, the world- us would not be able to survive and thrive if
not for this 94% dark matter.
What
we need to realise that there are many things in our life which seem like this
dark matter and those things can be unsettling, scary and emotionally
traumatic, at least I speak for myself when that is the case for me. Some times
it seems so overwhelming that all I wanna do is curl up and cry and not wanna
see anyone or do anything ever again. Many times we don’t know why these
experiences happen to us? and why is there uncertainty? and why is there pain
and frustration? We know when we tell people, when we reflect back on it that
we wouldn’t be where we are today if not for this dark matter in lives. Without
that uncertainty, without that unclearness without that trauma because that
trauma actually shapes us the way we are today and that won’t happen suddenly.
So
if people know this then why aren’t we better at being patient? You’d think if
we place a call knowing we’re going to be put on hold, and the automated menu
even tells us what the estimated wait time is, we’d be less frustrated knowing
our wait time will reach a limit. Instead, we become less and less patient the
more time elapses, and by the time we get to speak to a person, our patience is
completely gone. This brings me to the point that lack of information about the
time, about the things, leads to paranoia which eventually also leads to
problems in personal life. In reality though, those things may not even exist,
but would merely be a bad fragment of our imagination.
So
take time today and realise that there has been dark matter and there will be
dark matter in our lives, but what we do of it or how we deal with it is
important. So as Joyce Meyer puts it, Patience is not the ability to wait, but
how you act while you're waiting. And tactical shifts do take time like Rome
wasn’t built in a day and a child isn’t born in a day, similarly big changes
begin with small steps and require a lot of patience. Hence, things take time
but what we as a generation need to understand is that we need to be patient
with ourselves and with other people because nothing good has come by rushing
into things- those things are merely temporary gains as they call it. But to
adapt thoroughly, time needs to be taken and given.
And
lately, I agree that I have not been perfect in someway or the other and have
been beating myself up for it. But some time back even I was not patient enough
with people in my life- I agree I was expecting perfection from all without
being perfect myself. But now at least if not perfect and if not expecting
perfection from myself and others, I have become patient, because patience, as
they say is necessary, it may take a lot effort from you in the interim but trust me
it's worth the wait (take for example the newborn kid or how beautiful Rome is).
So
people as I say, patience is the key!
Be committed, be focused, but most importantly, be patient!
Ciao and Cheers to being patient with
everyone including ourselves!
Well written 😄
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