The Virtue of Patience!

Be Patient!

Patience is one of the rarest virtues to be found in human species these days. I just ask people as to what is wrong in being patient? Well the only answer I get is it takes too long, the wait is till eternity, who will wait that long etc. etc. So where did our patience go? We still have to wait, but why can’t we do it patiently anymore?

What brings me here to write about this virtue today is a fact that I got to know very recently- which is that 94% of the entire Universe is made up of dark matter and scientists say that this dark matter, such as black holes and other such things, they don’t know what it is and why is it there but what is a fact is that the Universe, the world- us would not be able to survive and thrive if not for this 94% dark matter.

What we need to realise that there are many things in our life which seem like this dark matter and those things can be unsettling, scary and emotionally traumatic, at least I speak for myself when that is the case for me. Some times it seems so overwhelming that all I wanna do is curl up and cry and not wanna see anyone or do anything ever again. Many times we don’t know why these experiences happen to us? and why is there uncertainty? and why is there pain and frustration? We know when we tell people, when we reflect back on it that we wouldn’t be where we are today if not for this dark matter in lives. Without that uncertainty, without that unclearness without that trauma because that trauma actually shapes us the way we are today and that won’t happen suddenly.

So if people know this then why aren’t we better at being patient? You’d think if we place a call knowing we’re going to be put on hold, and the automated menu even tells us what the estimated wait time is, we’d be less frustrated knowing our wait time will reach a limit. Instead, we become less and less patient the more time elapses, and by the time we get to speak to a person, our patience is completely gone. This brings me to the point that lack of information about the time, about the things, leads to paranoia which eventually also leads to problems in personal life. In reality though, those things may not even exist, but would merely be a bad fragment of our imagination.

So take time today and realise that there has been dark matter and there will be dark matter in our lives, but what we do of it or how we deal with it is important. So as Joyce Meyer puts it, Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you're waiting. And tactical shifts do take time like Rome wasn’t built in a day and a child isn’t born in a day, similarly big changes begin with small steps and require a lot of patience. Hence, things take time but what we as a generation need to understand is that we need to be patient with ourselves and with other people because nothing good has come by rushing into things- those things are merely temporary gains as they call it. But to adapt thoroughly, time needs to be taken and given.

And lately, I agree that I have not been perfect in someway or the other and have been beating myself up for it. But some time back even I was not patient enough with people in my life- I agree I was expecting perfection from all without being perfect myself. But now at least if not perfect and if not expecting perfection from myself and others, I have become patient, because patience, as they say is necessary, it may take a lot effort from you in the interim but trust me it's worth the wait (take for example the newborn kid or how beautiful Rome is).

So people as I say, patience is the key!

Be committed, be focused, but most importantly, be patient!

Ciao and Cheers to being patient with everyone including ourselves!